The mother of Matthew Shepard shares her story about her son's death and the choice she made to become an international gay rights activist
Today, the name Matthew Shepard is synonymous with gay rights, but before his grisly murder in 1998, Matthew was simply Judy Shepard's son. For the first time in book form, Judy Shepard speaks about her loss, sharing memories of Matthew, their life as a typical American family, and the pivotal event in the small college town that changed everything.
The Meaning of Matthew follows the Shepard family in the days immediately after the crime, when Judy and her husband traveled to see their incapacitated son, kept alive by life support machines; how the Shepards learned of the incredible response from strangers all across America who held candlelit vigils and memorial services for their child; and finally, how they struggled to navigate the legal system as Matthew's murderers were on trial. Heart-wrenchingly honest, Judy Shepard confides with readers about how she handled the crippling loss of her child, why she became a gay rights activist, and the challenges and rewards of raising a gay child in America today.
The Meaning of Matthew not only captures the historical significance and complicated civil rights issues surrounding one young man's life and death, but it also chronicles one ordinary woman's struggle to cope with the unthinkable.
A mother's memoir of her young son, his murder and the effect on a galvanized public. Born on Dec. 1, 1976, Matthew Shepard died on Oct. 12, 1998, the victim of a murderous attack because he was gay. His death became a significant juncture in the cause of gay rights. Shocked sympathizers from across the country spoke out in memory of the small, vulnerable young man who was brutally pistol whipped and bound to a fence to die in Laramie, Wyo. Now his mother, who has become a vocal activist in support of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender causes, presents the back story to those tragic events. She begins with a simple portrait of a sensitive, empathetic kid who was into dress-up and playacting. His father was an oil engineer working in Saudi Arabia; Matthew was schooled in Switzerland. During a high-school trip to Morocco, he was beaten and raped. After returning home, he became lonely and clinically depressed. His two killers, intent on robbery, picked him up in a Laramie tavern and inflicted grievous injury to the innocuous young man. Never regaining consciousness, he died in a hospital a few days later. Life turned surreal for his family. In the media storm they rightly feared exploitation. There were instances of bigotry, but there was also a wellspring of public support and compassion. The author poignantly recalls the days after her son's death and the subsequent trials of the killers. "There are still nineteen states where crimes motivated by the victim's sexual orientation (actual or perceived) are not considered hate crimes," writes the author, "and there are thirty states where it's still okay to fire people because of their sexual orientation." Shepard is working diligently toassure that the Matthew Shepard Act, still stalled in Congress after a decade, gets passed, and she hopes her son's story becomes a necessary catalyst for change. Honest and inspiring. Agent: Jay Mandel/William Morris Agency